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This week I couldn't find a babysitter for my 12 years old daughther. Now that she's twelve I do belief though that she doesn't really need one and should be able to go to bed by herself. But what was my underlying intention truly when deciding that she's old enough to stay at home by herself and go to bed by herself? Was I really listening to her or was I listening to the voice in my head saying that work was more important? And what are the long term consequences of making both decisions?

Is the long term consequence a woman feeling unsave in her childhood years because her father had to work late? Or a woman who knows that her father always puts her first and gives her a sense of love and safety? Of course the latter, what was I thinking?! The decision suddenly was very very easy to make, and I got home at 21:00 that night.

Thinking about this a little more, it made me realize that it makes life much easier and better when you have your priorities in order. There are so many decisions to make each day that it helps me to have the framework in which I make decisions. And this also relates to the 10 yearsplan in which I try to balance all categories of my life.

I've come to realize that my base priority is to nourish love, health and abundance for myself. Like the safety manuals in airplanes tell you: in case of emergency first put on your own oxygen mask, before you put it on your child's face. When I'm not showing love; when I'm not in a good healthy shape and when I'm not making decisions from a mindset of abundance, I can't be of service to others.

My second priority is to be a good parent. Not my career, nor my friends, nor my other family member, nor my belongings, nor my nothing, is more important than providing a safe environment for my daughter in which she can grow up to be a happy independent woman. I see being truly myself and inspiring her to make also make her own choices in life, balancing all aspects that make life a great adventure, as my main task of being a father.

And then everything else.